to exist between the gay and straight communities a general lack of
communication. And this lack of communication has created a stale mate. But
worse, it has created a wall so thick between them that they no longer even
speak the same language. It is very important, if there is to be any
resolution, that both sides understand each other.
Sexual identity (often
Orientation") and Sexual promiscuity
are two different things, but unfortunately when a homosexual says "I'm
gay", the Christian typically hears "I'm whoring around with the same
gender", and then the morality battle begins because it is wrongfully
presumed that "same-gender fornication" is the definition of
homosexuality. To save everyone this trap while reading this site, here is a brief
list of proper definitions of words. Please review the following words – and
remember them - so that we are all speaking the same language as we venture
through this site.
SEXUAL PREFERENCE: Actually,
there is no such thing. The proper term is Sexual Identity, or sexual
orientation. A preference assumes that a person likes two different things but
prefers one over the other. For example, I like corn and asparagus; but if
given the choice I prefer corn over asparagus. This is a preference. However, I
like white cake and have virtually no interest in chocolate cake; therefore I
do not prefer white over chocolate because I never liked chocolate in the first
place - chocolate isn't even a choice for me and therefore I cannot prefer it
more or less than white.
- a heterosexual does not “prefer”
the opposite gender over the same gender, because the heterosexual had
virtually no interest in the same gender in the first place and therefore does
not have the option to prefer one more or less than the other
- a homosexual does not “prefer”
the same gender over the opposite gender, because the homosexual has virtually
no interest in the opposite gender in the first place and therefore does not
have the option to prefer one more or less than the other.
("straight"): a male or female who innately
is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and
feels internally connected, only to other human members of the opposite gender,
and who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with
members of the opposite gender, regardless of condition of virginity.
("gay/lesbian"): a male or female who innately
is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and
feels internally connected, only to other human members of the same gender, and
who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with
members of the same gender, regardless of condition of virginity.
EX-GAY: There are
two different types of ex-gays:
heterosexual who had previously left members of the opposite gender for members
of the same gender, but has reverted to his or her natural heterosexual
identity. This is not a true "ex-gay" because he/she was never gay to
- a homosexual who, through
various brainwashing techniques, has been convinced that he or she is now a
heterosexual, which usually ends disastrously, including suicide. This is not a
true "ex-gay" person any more than a brown-eyed person with blue
contact lenses is "ex-brown-eyed".
EX-EX-GAY: a homosexual
who has recovered from subjection to brainwashing techniques that had convinced
the person that he or she had become heterosexual.
("bi"): A heterosexual man or woman who encounters lustful desires for the same gender, or a homosexual man or
woman who encounters lustful desires for the opposite gender. The Kinsey Institute claims that most human beings encounter
these sensations but do not act upon the; those who do act upon them categorize their fornication as "bisexuality". Often
a homosexual person who has repressed their
true sexuality by trying to live a fraudulent heterosexual life will label
themselves bisexual simply because they have had sex with the opposite gender
and/or have gotten used to it. There are a great many reasons why heterosexuals
have sex with the same gender, and they incorrectly label themselves bisexual.
Having intercourse with both genders does not constitute a bi-sexual identity
but a violation of the person's hetero or homo sexual identity, much like a
right handed person trying to use his left hand. A "true" bisexual
(if there really is such a thing... and in my experience only hermaphrodites qualify) is a person - while yet in their virginity - who is
able to enter a romantic lifetime union (marriage) with any person without any regard
whatsoever to the gender of the other person, and would not favor one gender
over the other in any way – and, most importantly, would not need both genders
to be satisfied. This is biblically demonstrated in other chapters here.
BI CURIOUS: not to be
confused with a true homosexual or heterosexual, or even a
"bi-sexual", a Bi Curious person is one who feels multiple internal
signals from both genders and is not sure to which sexual category he or she
belongs, though generally such a person will lean toward homosexuality. There
are countless psychological reasons for this condition, some benign and some
condition is typically found in young people due to the constant mixed messages
constantly barraging them from all directions of Society and social media; generally
with time and guidance from the Lord, their true identity will become aware to
TRANS SEXUAL: a
heterosexual or homosexual male or female who has had, or wishes to have,
genital reassignment through surgery to that of the opposite gender as a result
of identity loss and a sense of low self-worth due to lack of gender
edification. In ultra-rare cases, the cause is genetic malfunction in the womb,
similar to that found with hermaphrodites who are born with both gender's
heterosexual or homosexual male or female who finds pleasure in, or who prefers
to wear, clothing and paraphernalia commonly associated with the opposite
gender. The term "Drag Queen" generally refers to homosexual
transvestites. The term "Female Impersonator" generally refers to
anyone who dresses as the opposite gender for entertainment purposes,
regardless of whether that person is a transvestite.
psychological disorder causing fear of same-gender intimacy, or of others of
the same gender who are intimate, who hates and/or represses others who are not
like them, either by threats, violence, or the passage of discriminatory laws.
psychological dysfunction causing a heterosexual or homosexual to be sexually
gratified with prepubescent children, sometimes borne out of lust but more
often the result of having been sexually molested at a young age.
psychological dysfunction causing a heterosexual or homosexual to engage in
sexual contact with species outside of the Image of God (mankind).
please, this article from the esteemed Cleveland Clinic. Reviewed by the
doctors at The Cleveland Clinic Department of Psychiatry and Psychology. Edited
by Charlotte E. Grayson, MD
© 2003 The
Cleveland Clinic [All Rights Reserved]:
an important part of who we are as humans. Beyond the ability to reproduce, sexuality
also defines how we see ourselves and how we physically relate to others.
"Sexual orientation" is a term used to refer to a person's emotional,
romantic, and sexual attraction to individuals of a particular gender (male or
female). Sexual orientation generally is divided into 3 categories:
attracted to individuals of the opposite sex
attracted to members of either sex
attracted to individuals of one's own sex
orientation involves a person's feelings and sense of identity; it may or may
not be evident in the person's appearance or behavior. People may have
attractions to people of the same or opposite sex but may elect not to act on
these feelings. For example, a bisexual may choose to have a monogamous (one
partner) relationship with one gender and, therefore, elect not to act on the
attraction to the other gender.
“Why Are Some
People Homosexual or Bisexual? Most scientists today agree that sexual
orientation is the result of a combination of environmental, emotional,
hormonal, and biological factors. In other words, there are many factors that
contribute to a person's sexual orientation, and the factors may be different
for different people. However, homosexuality and bisexuality are not caused by
the way a child was reared by his or her parents, or by having a sexual
experience with someone of the same sex when the person was young. Also, being
homosexual or bisexual does not mean the person is mentally ill or abnormal in
some way, although there may be social problems that result from prejudicial
attitudes or misinformation.
“How Does a
Person Know Their Sexual Orientation? For many people, their sexual orientation
becomes evident to them during adolescence or young adulthood, and in many
cases without any sexual experience. For example, homosexuals become aware that
their sexual thoughts and activities focus on people of the same sex. It is
possible, however, to have fantasies or to be curious about people of the same
sex without being homosexual or bisexual, or choosing to act on these
Person's Sexual Orientation Be Changed? Most experts agree that sexual
orientation is not a choice and, therefore, cannot be changed. Some people who
are homosexual or bisexual may hide their sexual orientation and/or live as
heterosexuals to avoid the prejudice that exists against people who are
homosexual and bisexual or to avoid their own moral dilemmas felt when their
sexual orientation is incompatible with their personal beliefs.
Support Groups Available for People Struggling With Their Sexuality? Yes. There
are a number of different support systems available to those in need. These
support systems can help them develop strategies for dealing with the prejudice
associated with homosexuality and the damaging effects of bias and stereotypes.”
[Rev. James Cunningham and Gay Christian Survivors
in any way with the Cleveland