Sexual promiscuity and sexual identity (often called "Sexual Orientation") are two different things, but unfortunately when a homosexual says "I'm gay", the Christian typically hears "I'm whoring around with the same gender", and then the morality battle begins because it is wrongfully presumed that "same-gender fornication" is the definition of homosexuality. To save everyone this trap while visiting this site, here is a brief list of proper definitions of words. Please review the following words so that we are all speaking the same language as we venture through this site.

SEXUAL PREFERENCE: Actually, there is no such thing. The proper term is Sexual Identity, or sexual orientation. A preference assumes that a person likes two different things but prefers one over the other. For example, I like corn and asperagus; but if given the choice I prefer corn over asperagus. This is a preference. However, I like white cake and have virtually no interest in chocolate cake; therefore I do not prefer white over chocolate because I never liked chocolate in the first place - chocolate isn't even a choice for me and therefore I cannot prefer it more or less than white. THEREFORE,

• a heterosexual does not prefer the opposite gender over the same gender, because the heterosexual had virtually no interest in the same gender in the first place and therefore does not have the option to prefer one more or less than the other. 
• a homosexual does not prefer the same gender over the opposite gender, because the homosexual has virtually no interest in the opposite gender in the first place and therefore does not have the option to prefer one more or less than the other.   

HETEROSEXUAL ("straight"): a male or female who is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and feels internally connected, only to other human members of the opposite gender, and who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with members of the opposite gender.

HOMOSEXUAL ("gay/lesbian"): a male or female who is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and feels internally connected, only to other human members of the same gender, and who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with members of the same gender.

EX-GAY: There are two different types of ex-gays:

• a heterosexual who had previously left members of the opposite gender for members of the same gender, but has reverted to his or her natural heterosexual identity. This is not a true "ex-gay" because he/she was never gay to begin with.
• a homosexual who, through various brainwashing techniques, has been convinced that he or she is now a heterosexual, which usually ends disastrously, including suicide. This is not a true "ex-gay" person any more than a brown-eyed person with blue contact lenses is "ex-brown-eyed".

EX-EX-GAY: a homosexual who has recovered from subjection to brainwashing techniques that had convinced the person that he or she had become heterosexual.

BISEXUAL ("bi"): a male or female heterosexual or homosexual who dabbles in romantic/sexual relations with both genders in defiance of their natural hetero or homo sexual identity, which is usually the effect of either promiscuity or self deception, which results in a psychological identity conflict. Often a homosexual person who has repressed their true sexuality by trying to live a fraudulent heterosexual life will incorrectly call themselves bisexual simply because they have had sex with the opposite gender and/or have gotten used to it. There are a great many reasons why heterosexuals have sex with the same gender, and they incorrectly label themselves bisexual. Having intercourse with both genders does not constitute a bi-sexual identity but a violation of the person's hetero or homo sexual identity, much like a right handed person trying to use his left hand. "Bisexuality" is not a sexual identity like hetero or homo sexualities, but is merely a descriptive word for the ACT of a hetero or homo sexual who has perverted their nature to have sex with the gender that is opposite to their identity. A "true" bisexual (if there really is such a thing) is a person who is able to enter a romantic lifetime union (marriage) with any person without regard to their gender, and would not favor one gender over the other in any way, and would not need both genders to be satisfied.

BI CURIOUS: not to be confused with a true homosexual or heterosexual, or even a "bi-sexual", a Bi Curious person is one who feels multiple internal signals from both genders and is not sure to which sexual category he or she belongs, though generally such a person will lean toward homosexuality. There are countless psychological reasons for this condition, some benign and some serious. This condition is typically found in young people, and, though sexual experimentation is forbidden by the Lord as a way to determine orientation, generally with time and guidance from the Lord, their true identity will become aware to them.

TRANS SEXUAL: a heterosexual or homosexual male or female who has had, or wishes to have, genital reassignment through surgery to that of the opposite gender as a result of identity loss and a sense of low self-worth due to lack of gender edification. In ultra-rare cases, the cause is genetic malfunction in the womb, similar to that found with hermaphrodites who are born with both gender's genitals.

TRANSVESTITE: a heterosexual or homosexual male or female who finds pleasure in, or who prefers to wear, clothing and paraphernalia commonly associated with the opposite gender. The term "Drag Queen" generally refers to homosexual transvestites. The term "Female Impersonator" generally refers to anyone who dresses as the opposite gender for entertainment purposes, regardless of whether that person is a transvestite.

HOMOPHOBIA: a psychological disorder causing fear of same-gender intimacy, or of others of the same gender who are intimate, who hates and/or represses others who are not like them, either by threats, violence, or the passage of discriminatory laws.

PEDOPHILIA: a psychological disorder causing a heterosexual or homosexual to be sexually gratified with children.

BEASTIALITY: a psychological disorder causing a heterosexual or homosexual to engage in sexual contact with species outside of the Image of God (mankind).

Consider, please, this article from the esteemed Cleveland Clinic. Reviewed by the doctors at The Cleveland Clinic Department of Psychiatry and Psychology. Edited by Charlotte E. Grayson, MD 2003© The Cleveland Clinic:

Sexuality is an important part of who we are as humans. Beyond the ability to reproduce, sexuality also defines how we see ourselves and how we physically relate to others. "Sexual orientation" is a term used to refer to a person's emotional, romantic, and sexual attraction to individuals of a particular gender (male or female). Sexual orientation generally is divided into 3 categories:

Heterosexual: attracted to individuals of the opposite sex

Bisexual: attracted to members of either sex

Homosexual: attracted to individuals of one's own sex

Sexual orientation involves a person's feelings and sense of identity; it may or may not be evident in the person's appearance or behavior. People may have attractions to people of the same or opposite sex but may elect not to act on these feelings. For example, a bisexual may choose to have a monogamous (one partner) relationship with one gender and, therefore, elect not to act on the attraction to the other gender.

Why Are Some People Homosexual or Bisexual? Most scientists today agree that sexual orientation is the result of a combination of environmental, emotional, hormonal, and biological factors. In other words, there are many factors that contribute to a person's sexual orientation, and the factors may be different for different people. However, homosexuality and bisexuality are not caused by the way a child was reared by his or her parents, or by having a sexual experience with someone of the same sex when the person was young. Also, being homosexual or bisexual does not mean the person is mentally ill or abnormal in some way, although there may be social problems that result from prejudicial attitudes or misinformation.

How Does a Person Know Their Sexual Orientation? For many people, their sexual orientation becomes evident to them during adolescence or young adulthood, and in many cases without any sexual experience. For example, homosexuals become aware that their sexual thoughts and activities focus on people of the same sex. It is possible, however, to have fantasies or to be curious about people of the same sex without being homosexual or bisexual, or choosing to act on these impulses/attractions.

Can a Person's Sexual Orientation Be Changed? Most experts agree that sexual orientation is not a choice and, therefore, cannot be changed. Some people who are homosexual or bisexual may hide their sexual orientation and/or live as heterosexuals to avoid the prejudice that exists against people who are homosexual and bisexual or to avoid their own moral dilemmas felt when their sexual orientation is incompatible with their personal beliefs.

Are There Support Groups Available for People Struggling With Their Sexuality? Yes. There are a number of different support systems available to those in need. These support systems can help them develop strategies for dealing with the prejudice associated with homosexuality and the damaging effects of bias and stereotypes.