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OUR LITTLE TEST: God's Words or Your Words?
LEVITICUS 18 & 20: The Heterosexual Abomination
ROMANS 1: Are Homosexuals Just Perverted Heterosexuals?
1st TIMOTHY & 1st CORINTHIANS: And Such Were Some Of You - But Not All Of You
COLOSSIANS 3: Are Gays The Children Of Disobedience?
A BIBLICAL GAY MARRIAGE: Did The Church Just Miss This One - Or Did They Intentionally Ignore It?
GAY MARRIAGE & ADOPTION: It Is Not Good That The Man Should Be Alone
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Did The Church Just Miss This One -
Or Did They Intentionally Ignore It?

The church teaches that David (who became king and ancestor of Jesus) and Jonathan (the princely son of King Saul) were merely the best of platonic friends and godly spiritual brothers, and, though it is true that they committed startling sins, including adultery, murder, adultery, genital mutilation of their enemies, adultery, some more murder, and, uh, adultery, there is no way (says the Christian Church) that the two men could have been married lovers.


Yet, even if we were to agree for just a lightning fast moment that homosexuality is "a sin like all other sin or temptation", considering all the other horrendous sins David committed, why then would it be so shocking and terrifying to discover that David lived a homosexual relationship with Jonathan?


"Gasp! No! Say David was ANY other wicked thing but gay!"


Well goodness gracious, let's all go berserk at the very idea! And why does everyone go berserk and vigilante at this idea? Because they are thinking fleshly as man thinks, not as God thinks. So, let's behave ourselves, give our brains a temporary stress relief by putting our biases on hold for five minutes and see what the Word of God reveals about them. David and Jonathan were married and it was not a sin, and it's time we stop sweeping it under the rug for fear that our cathedral will come crashing down around us. 


I believe that all parties are in agreement that David and Jonathan were best friends and "godly brothers in the Lord". No one's arguing there. But contrary to what the church willingly closes their eyes to, the Bible says quite a great deal more about their relationship that unequivocally proves that they were more than just good friends and brothers, and that’s what we’ll discuss in this chapter.


But before we do so, I would like to mention a little tidbit that will help you understand the forthcoming information. There are two terms mentioned in the Bible which specifically refer to sex: "confusion" and "to uncover (a person's) nakedness". Some examples include, to lie with an animal is called "confusion" and to lie with your mother is to "uncover your father's nakedness". These can be found throughout the Levitical laws, in several combinations, pertaining to sex. Now, on to the topic at hand.


The story of the relationship between David and Jonathan begins in 1 Samuel 18:1-3 where we are told that


"It came to pass, when he [David] had made an end of speaking with Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul....Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul."


Now, this is the very definition of a marriage - two souls knit together in love, and bound with a covenant. Had this same event taken place between a man and a woman, no one would question that it referred to a marriage, and we wouldn’t be having this conversation. There would be no question whatsoever that this was a marriage if this verse said,


"And it came to pass, when she [Tina] had made an end of speaking with Saul, that the soul of Mike was knit with the soul of Tina, and Mike loved her as his own soul... Then Mike and Tina made a covenant, because he loved her as his own soul."


Though both men LATER took wives (mainly because there would have been a need for an heir to the throne, of which BOTH of them were contenders), Jonathan and David were an "item" before other women came into the picture. So this would not be an argument in favor of the Levitical laws and Romans 1, which outlaws a heterosexual man who leaves the woman for a man. The women came later - so at the most, David and Jonathan both left the MALE for the FEMALE. And to be precise, David and Jonathan's relationship only ended because Jonathan was killed in battle. If you continue to read 1st Samuel chapter 18, following the union of David and Jonathan, David's nearly forced marriage to his first female spouse (King Saul's daughter Michal) was a devious plot concocted by Saul to destroy David. The whole ugly affair with Michal was hardly an issue for or against same/opposite sex attraction and love; it was purely a political move, as we see the main issue was getting David to produce a royal heir with Saul's daughter - which David absolutely refused at first (after all, he was already bound to Jonathan, but as we all know David later had no problem with having multiple spouses).


In fact, when Saul presents the idea of a marriage between David and Michal, Saul clearly states in 18:21, less than twenty verses after David and Jonathan make their covenant, that


"Thou shalt this day be my son in law in the twain."


"In the twain” means "in the two", or in modern English it means that any future marriage between David and Michal would make David the son-in-law of Saul "A SECOND TIME"/"ONCE AGAIN". Saul is acknowledging here that he is already David's father-in-law (through Jonathan) and that now he will be again through Michal. (Some people claim that this statement was referring to Saul's earlier attempt to marry off his other daughter Merab to David, but by the time of this remark from Saul, Merab was already married to someone else and out of the picture, so it simply could not refer to Merab & Michal, but only to Jonathan & Michal).


Later, in 1st Samuel 20, David runs (literally) to Jonathan and expresses his fears over King Saul's recent change of attitude toward him, saying, "What have I done?! What is mine iniquity? And what is my sin before thy father that he seeketh my life?!" Jonathan tries to console him by saying that there is nothing to fear because his father would never make a move without first consulting with him. David responds by swearing and then by saying to Jonathan,


"Thy father certainly knoweth that I have found grace in thine eyes! ...Truly as the Lord liveth and as thy soul liveth, there is but a step between me and death!"


And Jonathan immediately consoles his lover with words of romantic tenderness that a prince does not say to mere subjects, even if they are friends:


"Whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for thee.”


Bear in mind that through all of this no one but the High Priest Samuel had the slightest idea that David was ever going to be king. He was just a shepherd and a good warrior.


Immediately after this discussion, David asks Jonathan what their back-up plan should be depending on the king's reaction to Jonathan’s cover story as to why David has not been showing up to Saul’s banquet. But ignoring David's question - or maybe because of his question - Jonathan changes the subject to discuss their covenant, ensuring the binding their two houses together, something done only by marriage:


And Jonathan said unto David, "Come, and let us go out into the field." And they went out, both of them, into the field. And Jonathan said unto David, "O LORD God of Israel! When I have sounded [told] my father about to morrow any time, or the third day, and, behold, if there be good toward David and I then send not [this information] unto thee, and shew it thee; [then may] the LORD do so and much more to Jonathan! But if it please my father to do thee evil, then I will shew it [make it known to] thee, and send thee away that thou mayest go in peace [safely]: and the LORD be with thee, as He hath been with my father. And thou shalt not only (while yet I live) shew me the kindness of the LORD, that I die not, but also thou shalt not cut off thy kindness from my House for ever - no, not when the LORD hath cut off the enemies of David, every one, from the face of the earth." So Jonathan made a covenant with the House of David, saying, "Let the LORD even require it at the hand of David's enemies!" And Jonathan caused David to SWEAR AGAIN, because he loved him - for he loved him as he loved his own soul.”

-1 Sam 20:11-17.


Then David tells Jonathan that he is too afraid to attend Saul's upcoming banquet, and the two men plot a scheme so that David doesn't have to go. Then Jonathan, out of his love for David, lies to his father the king about David's where-abouts to protect him. But Saul sees right through it all, and, KNOWING that his son and David are involved in a ROMANTIC and SEXUAL covenant relationship, declares to him in verse 30,




Is it possible to be more blunt than that? Could Saul have been any plainer without using profanity? In fact, I’d say that was fairly graphic language for that era.


King Saul knew EXACTLY what was going on between those two young men - and anyone else with eyes could see it too. And Saul is now so jealous of David that he lashes out against his son’s love for David that he nearly murders his own son. The very words used by King Saul make it abundantly clear that David and Jonathan were indeed in a married relationship with each other.


This is confirmed by David's famous (and public) love psalm to Jonathan upon his death in 2nd Samuel 1:26:


"Very pleasant hast thou been unto me: thy love to me

was wonderful, PASSING THE LOVE OF WOMEN."


“Passing” means “surpassing/going beyond”. What is particularly fascinating about that statement it that the word “passing” does not exist in the Hebrew of this verse! It is an italicized word, meaning that it was added by the translators to complete the sentence in translation. Literally, in Hebrew, this verse says, “thy love to me was more wonderful than the love of women”. In EITHER translation, romantic/sexual love is clearly the meaning behind “the love of women”, and David is screaming in your face with a megaphone that their same-gender love was MORE WONDERFUL than what they experienced with women.


It would be nonsensical to insist that David’s statement here was merely a gesture of affection between two good buddies. Heterosexual men - in ANY age - do not use such romantic and sexually charged words with one another; and they certainly wouldn't write love poems to each other.


In fact, note here that David uses the word "love" twice in this sentence, both times in reference to their relationship. Now, of course one might propose that this was "brotherly" love or "friendship" love. However, the Scriptures themselves tell us that this "love" was not merely platonic. The Hebrew word for “love” used toward Jonathan by David here in 2st Samuel 1:26 is "ahabah" (ah-haa-bah) - and in this same book, in 13:1-15, uses the EXACT same word when discussing Amnon's romantic and sexual love for his half-sister Tamar before he turned against her.


Please pay very close attention to this passage:


“Absalom the son of David had a fair sister whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved (AHABAH) her. And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar, for she was a virgin and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her. But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David's brother. And Jonadab was a very subtil man. And he said unto him, ‘Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me?’ And Amnon said unto him, ‘I love (AHABAH) Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister!’ And Jonadab said unto him, ‘Lay thee down on thy bed and make thyself sick; and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, ‘I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it and eat it at her hand.’’ So Amnon lay down and made himself sick. And when the king was come to see him, Amnon said unto the king, ‘I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand.’ Then David sent home to Tamar, saying, ‘Go now to thy brother Amnon's house and dress him meat.’ So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house, and he was laid down. And she took flour and kneaded it, and made cakes in his sight and did bake the cakes. And she took a pan, and poured them out before him - but he refused to eat. And Amnon said, ‘Have out all men from me!’ And they went out, every man, from him. And Amnon said unto Tamar, ‘Bring the meat into the chamber that I may eat of thine hand.’ And Tamar took the cakes which she had made and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother. And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, ‘Come lie with me, my sister.’ And she answered him, ‘Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel! Do not thou this folly! And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go?! And as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel! Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee.’ Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice, but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love (AHABAH) wherewith he had loved (AHABAH) her.”


It is IMPOSSIBLE to interpret David's use of "love [ahabah]" for Jonathan as any other thing but romantic/sexual love. Yes - he loved him as a friend and as a brother. No one is disputing that fact. But THE BIBLE says that was not the ONLY way they loved one another - they loved one another ROMANTICALLY.


I would also like to note again that these are hardly words that "just friends" say to each other. In fact, I would like to note here for the record that before I wrote this piece, I spoke with several heterosexual men about it. Without telling them that I was quoting the Bible or explaining upfront what I was doing, I told them the words of this verse and asked them what they would think if a man wrote them such a poem. Every single one of them said that I would be implying that we had had a sexual or romantic relationship. In fact, so romantic is this statement of David that it bears the same flavor of the love story in Song of Solomon.


Say you are a court judge. The case is the People vs. David & Jonathan. The prosecution must prove that David and Jonathan were a married couple, while the defense attempts to protect an anti-gay belief. Their case is that David was Jonathan's biblically lawful lover and therefore homosexuality is not forbidden. The defense says they were NOT lovers, therefore homosexuality is not supported by this story. (I am not a lawyer, so please pardon any misapplied legal terms).


The prosecution hereby presents to the court the following documented evidence (with pictures courtesy of BrickTestament.com), your Honor:



Evidence # 1st Samuel 18:1: "The soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul."

Your honor, the prosecution questions what kind of love this could possibly be if it is not romantic love....?

Objection; the evidence merely shows a close bond of friendship between the two men, not romantic love.

Your honor, we submit that the very style and wording of this evidence, if used to describe a man and a woman, could be taken to imply nothing less than romantic love. Only lovers have their "souls knit together in love". To suddenly redefine these words would be to overthrow our entire language. We will continue to read the evidence:


Evidence # 1st Samuel 18:2: "And [king] Saul took him [David] that day and would let him go no more home to his father's house [Jesse's house]." 

Your honor, the prosecution questions why Prince Jonathan's own father, the anointed King of Israel, would insist that David, a peasant shepherd, live in the king's palace if not for Prince Jonathan's romantic love for David.

Objection, your honor; we the defense cite David's slaying of Goliath as the cause for the King's lavish offer.

Counter objection; we insist that the evidence does not show this to be an offer, but rather an express use of royal power by King Saul to keep David whether he wanted to stay or not. Furthermore, it is historically not customary for military heroes to be awarded, by enforced royal command and without the hero's consent, permanent residence in a king's high palace. Does not the evidence show that it was the intent of the king to not let David ever go back to his own home?

Your honor, is the prosecution insisting that the king kidnapped David?

No, your honor; we are insisting that David was brought into the royal home because the king's son had entered into a marriage covenant with him.

Objection! This is preposterous! There is no proof of this, your honor! It is an attempt by the prosecution to create phantom leads.


Your honor, we submit the following evidence to the court:

Evidence # 1st Samuel 18:3-4: "Then Jonathan and David made a covenant because he loved him as his own soul; and Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword and to his bow and to his girdle."



Your honor, not only does the evidence show that the souls of David and Jonathan were knit together in love, but that as a result of that love they entered into a marriage covenant, with the Prince bestowing upon David even the very Royal Vesture & Sword, as well as everything else that was upon his Royal Person. Is this not an equivalent to the custom of giving a ring? What therefore can you make of this but a marriage?

Objection, your honor; the evidence shows that the King, soon after, presented David with his daughter, Princess Michal. If David were married to Jonathan, how then could he take another spouse? Adultery is strictly forbidden by Torah law and punishable by death. God only made ONE mate for Adam.

Your honor, let the record show that not only was David lawfully married to Jonathan AND Michal at the same time, but he also had several lawful wives at the same time. We submit as proof the following Official Records of the ancient Kingdom of Israel: 

  • 1 & 2 Samuel
  • 1 & 2 Kings
  • 1 & 2 Chronicles, and, 
  • Deuteronomy 21:15, which gives the law for what to do when a man has two wives and loves one but not the other.

We also submit Evidence # 2nd Samuel 12:8, that God specifically gave David his several spouses as GIFTS.

In addition, Evidence # 1st Samuel 18:21 shows that King Saul clearly states that Princess Michal would be David's SECOND SPOUSE! Excluding Jonathan, David had no other spouses at that time. If the king was not referring to Jonathan as being the first spouse, who then could David's 1st spouse have been? The Historical Record of Israel makes no mention of anyone else whatsoever. The Record takes him directly from tending sheep, to slaying Goliath, to meeting the king and making a covenant with Jonathan in the presence of the entire royal entourage and Israeli army. There is no other spouse..........

Do you see where this is going? Now add to this

  • King Saul's comments, in 1 Samuel 20:30, that he knew about David and Jonathan's romantic and sexual relationship.
  • Add to that Jonathan's wilingness to give and do anything for David, a mere subject of the kingdom, whom no one but the priest Samuel had the slightest idea would one day be king (i.e. Jonathan's total allegiance and submission to David wasn't based on loyalty to a king but out of pure spousal love).
  • Add to that David's adoption of Jonathan's orphaned children.
  • Add to that David's poem of love to Jonathan, where he specifically declares their love to be greater than that of a woman's. The picture is very clear.

So you decide. Were they lovers, or just close buddies?

Be sure you make that decision based on biblical facts, not on personal feelings.

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